Sweeter as the Years Go By

In a certain relationship especially in marriage we can say that it is nice to hear from lovers the words “Sweeter as the Years Go By” rather than “Bitter as the Years Go By”. The truth of the fact of today's generation seldom we can hear this sweet words of love. They go through this modern world that even their love would not sweet but become bitter as the years go by.

While walking along the seashore I observe an old couple about the age of 60-70, walking along holding each others hand. As I look at them, a certain thought cam to my mind. Though how old they are still they seems just like if they were young. The way they walk and hold each others hand. Really they fullfill the vows during their married as they promised in the altar and made a vow for each other. Though they were old enough but their love never grow old, the same love that grows more sweeter and stronger not bitter and weaker.

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In today's genaration we can often see that marriage doesn't last long. It would just stay for more than a couple of years (with exception to those who stands firm). We realize that they cannot stand to continue the vow which they made for each other. Why? What is the reason for this?

In my own observation it is due to the fact that influence plays a greater part in this. They have seen influence and known people who practice this that is why, for them, it is easy to do those things. For them, the way they look at relationship in marriage comes in different way. Instead that problems and misunderstandings make the relationship stronger and sweeter after they had overcome it, they look at it in a negative way. It seems that those are the things which creates heartache. That is why it ends up with broken relationship. It makes the relationship bitter and weaker.

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Hope that today's genaration would realize the importance of love in a marriage relationship. They would fullfill every promises they made and be true to every word they speak. Here they can speak the sweet words of love “Sweeter as theYears Go by”.

How to Preserve Love

In a married relationship, each of the partner should know how to take care of the relationship and to preserve the love which they felt toward each other in order to accomplish the vow during married (till death do us part).



Most of the common problem each married couple encounter in married life is the coolness of relationship. Their relationship become colder and it seems that they already lost the love which they felt before when they enter into married. The most common question that arises is, can love be preserve?

Yes. If that love which they feel toward each other is not fake. Or shall we say that the love they feel is true love. Meaning to say, they are true with each other when they enter that relationship.
For me the best way of preserving love relationship is to be true to each other no matter what. Temptation will not enter before married but to tell you the truth it will surely come after you have committed such thing to love the only person till death. It is a sort of a test that you are going to pass through. You will be test if how truthful you are with your partner.


To preserve love relationship, during the testing or in times of temptation, you should always put on mind and within your heart that what God has join together let no man put asunder. Sometimes it’s just a matter of material things in which we are being test, but sad to say that we give up right away. Always remember the vow “for better or for worst”. Married is not just a bed of roses, you should put in mind that we don’t always know what lies ahead. Better for today, but what if tomorrow will be worst. We should be ready for every step in our married life.

Sometimes it goes like this. When you meet another person which you feel that he/she looks better than your partner. Here starts the problem. Always put in mind that God gave you your partner because he/she is the best that God has given you. You should always remember that God does not give just better but best. Renew your commitment to your partner, let the love which you feel toward him will grow more sweeter not bitter.

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Another thing is that, when the in-laws would join such relationship and would spread different types of gossips. Here starts another problem. But the best thing to do is not to be one-sided. You should listen to both, you should judge fairly. Don’t be one-sided just because it seems that they are in a good side you should obey what they said. Maybe this is just a testing and they are being used to destroy your relationship. Always remember it’s your future not theirs.

Be true to your partner no matter what. It’s your partner who knows best about your relationship if you are just honest with each other.         

Love...is the only tresure


I know that I have no greater wealth to offer, no bigger money in the bank, no valuable treasure to give to those who are the nearest to my heart, but love is the only and the biggest treasure I have.





As a wife...let your husband be proud 
As a wife I give to my husband all the support he needed. I care for him and do those things which I know will make him happy and will make him proud of having a wife like me. I love my husband that's why he was the one to whom I commit the lifetime commitment of marriage. I know that I have nothing to give him because I have no bigger, greater and valuable treasure in life. But thebest thing that I offer is my love. This is the only treasure that I have that I give to my husband throughout my entire life. And I know that this is the only thing that will make him happy despite of whatever situation we encounter in life. As a wife, we should always remember that there is no greater valuable tresure wew can give to our husband but our true and sincere love. How about you? Are youdoing such thing to your partner?

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As a mother...we give the best to your kids
As a mother the best way I can show and let my kids feel that I really care for them is the love that I give them. Both of them know that I can't offer them anything with greater value which can be bought with money. Everyday and everytime whenever they're near or far from me I just let them feel that I really love them. I know that through this love that i'm giving to them they will feel how I value them and how I care for them being a mother. Eventhough this is just a small thing in thesight of other but I know that they will be proud of me being their mother because of thelove that I'm giving them. They may not see material treasure but they feel the real true treasure I give them through love. As a mother it is but our every obligation to give it to our children.
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As a wife and as a mother...we should be balance 
As a wife and as a mother I give both my husband andmy children the only treasure I have. Love that is intended for my husband, and love that is for my kids. When we do it, it should be balance both for the kids and for our husband. Both of them needs our care, attention, and love. So, as a wife, a mother we shouldknow how to do it in a balance way.
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This is the only treasure that cannot be bought with money, and is the best needed thing in family relationship.

LIVE IN or MARRIAGE

Today, it is but natural for both partners to agree together not to enter into marriage because of the reason that, they are afraid to handle the responsibility, to be tied up in a full commitment  which is a life time commitment through married life. It's nice to hear that reason, but how about you, which one do you prefer? LIVE IN or MARRIAGE.

Entering into a relationship is a very easy decision a certain person would do. It's just a simple yes. After that there comes a hard task and obligation each should follow. Maybe others won't agree, but to tell you that's the truth. Even though you are not yet married there are already does and don't coming from both sides. Those were sometimes seems to be easy but sometimes those are also the things which can cause trouble with the relationship.

Some decided to live in together because of those reasons. They wanted to know each other better so that when they enter into marriage they will know how to adjust with each other. They even do that thing not thinking to get married first. Their reason for that is the compatibility. If they cannot adjust  with each other in that stage (live in) they can't meet each others expectations, it will be easier for them to separate because they are not tied up into a lifetime commitment which is married. I'm sorry but for my own opinion that's a wrong concept. Why? Because you know that before you live in together you already know each individual differences and during that time that you have that simple relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend you should already know how to adjust and if not why should you stay long? Better to break up early than before it ruins your personal life. What I mean is that, if you still go on to live in, of course you will lost one thing which is very important. A very thing every wife should be proud of in giving herself to her husband. We say husband, because its a man whom you married not live in. Live in partners cannot be called husband and wife because husband and wife were blessed by GOD in a sacred ceremony which is married.

Marriage is a lifetime decision that you are going to made and you can't easily get out of it. You marry a certain person because you know that you love him/her. If ever there are incompatibility you should know how to deal with it. You get  into that lifetime relationship so you should learn how to accept it. True love endures, it is patient and kind. For me, married is not design for compatible persons but for the incompatible in order that the love which they have will make them compatible.

Always remember, entering into relationship is easy, but to decide between live in or marriage is a hard decision to do. Just think over with the positive and negative effect of these two if which one do you prefer. If you are planning now then go, at the end it's you who will suffer or enjoy.

How to Maintain Marital Relationship

Sad to say that after marriage many relationship had broken up and ended up with annulment or either divorce. In marriage we should know how to maintain our good relationship to avoid divorce or marriage annulment. We should learn how to protect that relationship in order that it would stay longer and so to fulfill the vow, “till death do us part”.

As we know that in marital relationship we are facing different phases and in each phase each partner should learn how to adjust with each other in order to have a smooth relationship. In each phase of marriage there are different problems and let's put in mind that these problems should not lead us to separation or divorce. We should know how to work out with it, for we know that marital relationship needs to be work out because it requires a lot of work.

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After marriage, when a baby is born, sometimes the problem start at this point. The wife is busy with the baby, there is now lack of communication, insecurities and lack of attention.

As a wife it is but your obligation to look after the baby. But don't put all your time to your child, you should know how to divide your time. You should put in mind that you have a husband who needs your attention too, whom you need to communicate and let him feel the same thing that he feels before. The things that you are doing together even before you have a baby.

As a husband you should also need to understand the feeling of being a mother. Having a baby is the happiest moment in life. Much better if both of you should take care of the baby, try to talk about for the future of your baby and give them both the attention they needed from a father. Remember that you are now a father and you now need to do the obligation of a responsible father.

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Financial issue is also one of the problem that sometimes lead to misunderstanding. The only thing I know about this is that, “never make money matter an argument in your relationship”. Both of you can talk over about it in a nice way and both of you can help find ways and means in solving financial matters. If both of you can do this together there's no chance for financial matter to become the root of misunderstanding.

Jealousy also comes after marriage. The only thing needed in this problem is trust. If you love your partner you should trust him/her. Put away bad thoughts that you think about her/him. You chose your partner to be your lifetime mate, you need to show that you really love him and you do trust him.

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Always remember that marriage is a give and take relationship. You give to your partner the things he needed and in return he also gives back to you the things that is best needed. For it is a give and take relationship. It's not all just the husband who need to work for the relationship. It's not also just the wife who will work for the relationship but both of you in order to have a smooth and lasting relationship.

Don't Haste to Fall in Love

Don't haste to fall in love, wait for the right time, because love has its own timing.







In a modern world that we are living today everything seems to be in haste. Young generations at their very young age thought that they already feel the word “LOVE” because they thought that what they feel toward their opposite sex is already love. Maybe this is just the result of the world's trend today. They just follow what they hear and saw in the television because at their young age they can still be a great imitator. The shows that talks about love, attracts younger generations to try it. Lack of guidance results to negative effects. Effects which cause them to suffer throughout their entire life.


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PUPPY LOVE (infatuation)
When a certain person reaches an adolescent stage, almost experience this kind of love. This is just a sort of a crush or an dmiration to a certain person. Time will pass and this feeling will also pass. Sad to say that todays younger generation misinterpret this as the true love they feel, and some of them even commit those things which should not be done by young age children. The result is, some of them become pregnant and having an unwanted child is a very hard problem to tackle. Sometimes this is due to too much exposure to society but lack of parental guidance when it comes to love affair of children. This problem leads to their lifetime regrets.

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TRUE LOVE
True love comes when a certain person is mature enough. Mature in thinking and in making decisions. This is the time that true love takes place. A certain person knows that what he/she feels will never change no matter what and despite of. He already knows what he is doing and what to do. In making commitments there is no regrets in the later ends because he knows that he made the right decision.

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Don't haste to fall in love because true love has its own time. A true feeling that you will never regret because you are in the right age and you have the right feeling and you are mature enough in engaging into it.

JUST A SORT OF ADVICE FOR THOSE HASTY LOVERS OUT THERE.....

Divorce: End of Love

It is but a practice of some country to file a divorce if ever they want to end up their marriage relationship. Why is it that a two person bound together by love simply ends up by a divorce? Does divorce means, end of love which both person felt when they get into marriage?

Divorce is the final termination of a marital union, cancelling legal duties and responsibilities of marriage and dissolving the bonds of matrimony between the parties. In most countries divorce requires the sanction of a court or other authority in a legal process. The legal process for divorce may also involve issues of spousal support, child custody, child support, distribution of property and division of debt.

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When two person decided to enter into a relationship, which is a husband and wife relationship, they did this because of the feelings that binds them which is LOVE. They live together, getting to know each other, accepting each individual differences because of love. As days went by, or even months, or years maybe because just of some reason, each of the individual decided to end up their relationship by “DIVORCE”. Forgetting all those things when they were together. Does this simply means end of love which they feel toward each other?
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Yes, for sure divorce means the end of love. Love that is not true, love that cannot endure and love that is just for better not for worst. If two person really love each other and the love they feel for each other is true and sincere,no matter what, their relationship would not end up in divorce. In every situation if love and God is the center of your relationship you can carry out every circumstances, and it will make your married life more stronger...

 

Restore Love: Avoid Divorce

Divorce is not an answer to a sinking marriage relationship. It's not the proper and right way to restore relation or to restore love. Divorce is breaking down or shutting down a precious and harmonious union which was ordained and designed by God.

In marriage, we are always looking for love. Love that we thought always give us pleasant things and make us happy and enjoy all the time. In a marriage relationship it is love that plays the most important role all the time.
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In marriage there are misunderstandings. It is love that should understand the hard to understand relationship. Love endures hardship. There are things which sometimes turn you out to be impatient. Love helps you to be patient. Jealousy sometimes take part in marriage. Still it is love that would teach you not to be jealous, you should have trust in your partner. In every relationship, if you let love plays the role, every thing would be fine and easy to understand.

When we enter into marriage, we really long to have children. Children are the fruits of your love. As a fruit, we all want the best from them. A loving home with a mother and a father to love them and to guide them. Sometimes, if we want to end up our relationship on a divorce, we should think for it over again. All those best we want for our children could no longer be attained because there will be an absence of a home. Lacking one partner to nurture and love children is impossible to create a good and better family.
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Stop thinking Divorce think Love, what Accomplishment and Joy it can give to you and your children. RESTORE LOVE, AVOID DIVORCE. God will bless you and your family if you can come up with these decision.

LOVE Changes as the World Changes

In a modern world we feel that everything goes in a modern way. Everything changes from time to time as a result of living in a modern world. Sad to say that as the world changes we feel that love also easily changes.
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Looking back to the past decade we can read the meaning of love as the emotion of strong affection and personal attachment. In philosophical context, love is a virtue representing all human kindness, compassion, and affection. Other said that love is a feeling between two opposite sex. As I observe love has it's different meaning in the modern world of today. Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment but wouldn't last because as the modern world changes lovers changes. Today love is not the feeling that last forever but a feeling that won't be forever. What I am trying to drive out is the love, love that a person of opposite sex feel when they enter into a relationship.


Observing the world around us today, even in the world of showbiz, in popular actresses and actors whose relationship is always an open book before the people, we have notice the different thing that is happening. When they enter into a relationship and get married it seems that that is really love. Try to notice that after a couple of years even just months that love easily changes. Why? Maybe this modern world changes too. What's the result? End up their relationship. By what? Divorce, and why? Because they are not compatible is their reason.


The truth of the fact is that it's not incompatibility which can end up the love which they feel but it's the effect of a fast changing modern world. Maybe for them they really need to coupe up with this modern world who in love affair, changes partners just like changing clothes. Going together with the modern world that everything changes as fast as it could so, also love would change as fast as the world changes.


The effect of it maybe good or bad, it's only those who practice it can tell. Just don't follow the world's trend. Be true to your partner no matter what, “for better or for worst till death do as part”.

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Effects of Divorce to Children

Divorce can be consider as a broken family. When a marriage couple decided to end up their relationship by a divorce it means they have no legal duties and obligations for their family. The absence of one in the family plays a great role. It's effect to the children would be worst if both party doesn't know how to let their children understand what it is all about and what still they are to their children.
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Children needs a family which is composed of a mother and a father. Each of them has different responsibilities and obligations for their children. The children in a divorcing family knows that those things their parents gave them wont be the same again. The absence of one means a great lose for them.


Children feels insecurity; they are afraid that after their parents seperated, their parent will get into married again. They won't have the same family which they are used too. The fear that they might be abandon. Alone in the world would be a very frightening thing for a child.


Children feels depressed; many children shows sign of depression. Some of them doesn't want to go out with the group or friends because they are ashamed of what had happened. Some have eating disorders even some have the threats of suicide.
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Let us always remember that children are precious jewels intrusted to us by God. They are a heritage from the Lord and God gave them to us for He knows that we should give full responsibility over them. Before it's too late, let's take care of them and don't just let the word “DIVORCE” ruin their lives.

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The Effect of Divorce to the Society

Divorce as a great effect in the society. Most of the untidy things that happened in the society were caused by children whose parents are divorced. This is due to lack of parental guidance for the growing children because of the absence of one partner.


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We believed that the children are the future of the world. How can these children be useful to the world if right now their lives were ruined by vices due to lack of guidance from parents because of divorce.

American society may have erased the stigma that once accompanied divorce, but it can no longer ignore its massive effects. As social scientists tracts successive generations of american whose parents have ended their marriages, the data are leading even some of the once-staunchest supporters of divorce to conclude that divorce is hurting American society and devastating the lives of children. Its effect are obvious in family life, educational attainment, job stability, income potential, physical and emotional health, drug use and crime.

One thin hat effect society is divorce. Not having a father figure in one's life can cause some serious heartache. Many other things go along with living in a divorced home, such as poverty, abuse may arise, and performance school drops.


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Divorce is a terrifying situation “today children are the first generation in this country's history who think divorce and separation are as normal part of family life. (Andrew Chrerlin of John's Hopkins University).

Increased youth crime is caused largely by absent of fathers as a result of divorce made to easy. The lacking of father's presence greatly damages the sons self-esteem and confidence. The lack of male role model at home is compounded by the lack of male role models at school.

If children are affected automatically our society suffers great impact of the effect of divorce it brings.

Resources: Patrick F. Fagan
Robert Rector
The effects of divorce in America
wikipedia.google.com
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