Today, it is but natural for both partners to agree together not to enter into marriage because of the reason that, they are afraid to handle the responsibility, to be tied up in a full commitment which is a life time commitment through married life. It's nice to hear that reason, but how about you, which one do you prefer? LIVE IN or MARRIAGE.
Entering into a relationship is a very easy decision a certain person would do. It's just a simple yes. After that there comes a hard task and obligation each should follow. Maybe others won't agree, but to tell you that's the truth. Even though you are not yet married there are already does and don't coming from both sides. Those were sometimes seems to be easy but sometimes those are also the things which can cause trouble with the relationship.
Some decided to live in together because of those reasons. They wanted to know each other better so that when they enter into marriage they will know how to adjust with each other. They even do that thing not thinking to get married first. Their reason for that is the compatibility. If they cannot adjust with each other in that stage (live in) they can't meet each others expectations, it will be easier for them to separate because they are not tied up into a lifetime commitment which is married. I'm sorry but for my own opinion that's a wrong concept. Why? Because you know that before you live in together you already know each individual differences and during that time that you have that simple relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend you should already know how to adjust and if not why should you stay long? Better to break up early than before it ruins your personal life. What I mean is that, if you still go on to live in, of course you will lost one thing which is very important. A very thing every wife should be proud of in giving herself to her husband. We say husband, because its a man whom you married not live in. Live in partners cannot be called husband and wife because husband and wife were blessed by GOD in a sacred ceremony which is married.
Marriage is a lifetime decision that you are going to made and you can't easily get out of it. You marry a certain person because you know that you love him/her. If ever there are incompatibility you should know how to deal with it. You get into that lifetime relationship so you should learn how to accept it. True love endures, it is patient and kind. For me, married is not design for compatible persons but for the incompatible in order that the love which they have will make them compatible.
Always remember, entering into relationship is easy, but to decide between live in or marriage is a hard decision to do. Just think over with the positive and negative effect of these two if which one do you prefer. If you are planning now then go, at the end it's you who will suffer or enjoy.
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